The Problem With ANGER- extracted from Awake March 2012

A man who ordered a sandwich at a fast-food

restaurant became enraged when he thought
it took too long for his meal to come.
He entered the restaurant, threatened an
employee, shoved him up against a counter,
and slapped him. The angry man then
grabbed his sandwich and walked out
of the restaurant.

ALL of us get angry from time to time. After all, anger is as much a part of our emotional makeup as love, hope, anxiety, sadness, and fear. Anger that is controlled can
be expressed in a proper way and can serve a useful purpose. For example, anger can be productive if it boosts one’s determination to overcome certain obstacles or problems.

As illustrated by the account above, anger also has a dark side. Some people experience anger more quickly, more frequently, and more intensely than others. When  provoked, they may lash out with verbal or physical attacks. Their anger, in effect, controls them, when it should be the other way around. Such unrestrained anger is dangerous, which is why it is sometimes referred to as “problem anger.” *

Those with anger problems bring grief not only to themselves but also to everyone around them. For  someone with anger issues, even seemingly trivial matters can spark a violent outburst that brings tragic consequences. Consider the following examples: A man walking with a group of friends was shot in the neck after the sports bag of one of his friends brushed against another man on a busy street. A 19-year-old male beat his fiance´e’s 11-month-old baby to death. The man had been playing a violent video game and lost his temper when the baby touched the game’s control panel and thus caused the man to forfeit the game. Similar reports from around the world indicate that an increasing number of people have anger problems. Why is anger on the rise?
*The brochure Boiling Point—Problem Anger and What We
Can Do About It describes “problem anger” as “any dysfunctional
way of relating to and managing anger that persistently
causes significant difficulties in a person’s life including their
thinking, feeling, behaviour and relationships.”




What Are the Causes?

What Effects Can Your Outburst of Anger Have on Your Children?

THE causes of anger are complex. Even
scientists admit that anger is poorly understood.
However, there is general agreement
among mental-health professionals that
all of us react to certain “anger triggers.”


Among others, it may be caused by, Parental Example, Cramped Cities, Economic Despairs, Prejudice and Injustice, Entertainment Industry and the Influence of the Wicked Spirits.



Parental Example
One’s parents have a profound influence
on personality development throughout
childhood and adolescence. Psychologist
Harry L. Mills explains: “From a very early
age, people learn to express anger by copying
the angry behavior they see modeled around
them.”
If a child is raised in a hostile environment —a place where tempers flare over trivial matters—the child is, in effect, being trained to respond to life’s problems with anger. You
could liken the child’s situation to a plant that has been nourished with tainted water. The
plant may grow, but its development could be stunted, and it could perhaps suffer permanent
damage. Likewise, anger is like tainted water, and children who have been exposed to it are more inclined to have anger problems as adults

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